​St. Valentine, the Real Story

Flowers, candy, red hearts and romance. That’s what Valentine’s day is all about, right? Well, maybe not.
The origin of this holiday for the expression of love really isn’t romantic at all—at least not in the traditional sense. Father Frank O’Gara of Whitefriars Street Church in Dublin, Ireland, tells the real story of the man behind the holiday—St. Valentine.
“He was a Roman Priest at a time when there was an emperor called Claudias who persecuted the church at that particular time,” Father O’Gara explains. ” He also had an edict that prohibited the marriage of young people. This was based on the hypothesis that unmarried soldiers fought better than married soldiers because married soldiers might be afraid of what might happen to them or their wives or families if they died.”
“I think we must bear in mind that it was a very permissive society in which Valentine lived,” says Father O’Gara. “Polygamy would have been much more popular than just one woman and one man living together. And yet some of them seemed to be attracted to Christian faith. But obviously the church thought that marriage was very sacred between one man and one woman for their life and that it was to be encouraged. And so it immediately presented the problem to the Christian church of what to do about this.”
“The idea of encouraging them to marry within the Christian church was what Valentine was about. And he secretly married them because of the edict.”
Valentine was eventually caught, imprisoned and tortured for performing marriage ceremonies against command of Emperor Claudius the second. There are legends surrounding Valentine’s actions while in prison.
“One of the men who was to judge him in line with the Roman law at the time was a man called Asterius, whose daughter was blind. He was supposed to have prayed with and healed the young girl with such astonishing effect that Asterius himself became Christian as a result.”
In the year 269 AD, Valentine was sentenced to a three part execution of a beating, stoning, and finally decapitation all because of his stand for Christian marriage. The story goes that the last words he wrote were in a note to Asterius’ daughter. He inspired today’s romantic missives by signing it, “from your Valentine.”
“What Valentine means to me as a priest,” explains Father O’Gara, “is that there comes a time where you have to lay your life upon the line for what you believe. And with the power of the Holy Spirit we can do that —even to the point of death.”
Valentine’s martyrdom has not gone unnoticed by the general public. In fact, Whitefriars Street Church is one of three churches that claim to house the remains of Valentine. Today, many people make the pilgrimage to the church to honor the courage and memory of this Christian saint.
“Valentine has come to be known as the patron saint of lovers. Before you enter into a Christian marriage you want some sense of God in your life—some great need of God in your life. And we know, particularly in the modern world, many people are meeting God through his Son, Jesus Christ.”
“If Valentine were here today, he would say to married couples that there comes a time where you’re going to have to suffer. It’s not going to be easy to maintain your commitment and your vows in marriage. Don’t be surprised if the ‘gushing’ love that you have for someone changes to something less “gushing” but maybe much more mature. And the question is, is that young person ready for that?”
“So on the day of the marriage they have to take that into context,” Father O’Gara says. “Love—human love and sexuality is wonderful, and blessed by God—but also the shadow of the cross. That’s what Valentine means to me.”

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STOP BEATING YOUR WIFE !!! A MUST READ…

Just imagine what this Man turned this pretty woman into?
please ladies, use your power of choice well.

Marry a good man.
The truth is that most of times, the signs are there for you, but you ignore them.
Make your own money and stop being moved by money and gifts.
These things are not proofs that a Man loves you.
Do you know that just one day beating can purge you of all the good things he got You.
Some of You have good men around you, who are willing to worship you. Instead of marrying such men, you allow greed and desperation to put you into the wrong hands.
Marriage is not a do-or-die affair.
Take your time and observe a Man.
Don’t just look at his actions, pay attention to his mindset. As a man thinketh, so is he.
Watch his relationship with other females.
Get his angry intentionally and watch his reaction.
Sometimes push him to the wall.
This is very important.
This woman is lucky to even be alive.
Imagine a man beating up a woman during pregnancy.
Such a bastard.
If you die, the man will get another woman.
So you lose on both sides.
I didn’t know that dinosaurs are still in existence
Marry a Man not a boy.
There are good men everywhere
Don’t be deceived.
It’s just that most of them come in seed form.
You have to discover them.
This journey of marriage is a loooooong one.
What is the benefit of rushing into marriage, only to rush out again.
When you find a good man, stick to him.
Abundance of wealth is good, but it won’t guarantee you much happiness.
Avoid men that see women as slaves.
If possible build with your man.
Especially a good man.
ITS MY OPINION THO!

You reserve the exclusive right to make your choice, I hope you make the right choice.

(MEN ONLY) 10 REASONS WHY YOU ARE HAVING POOR ERECTION

A lot of men suffer erectile dysfunction and most of these issues could easily be solved. Here are a few culprits you can look into to figure out what is causing you to have problems getting your penis to launch.

1. Lack of Vitamin D: A study has shown that men with severe erectile dysfunction had lower Vitamin D. Get outside and enjoy some sunshine, feast on vitamin D-fortified series, juices, breads and eggs.

2. Diabetes: Erectile dysfunction could be caused by un-diagnosed or diagnosed diabetes. If your ED is sudden, consider getting screened and if you know you already have diabetes, expect this to be a risk factor.

3. Your drinking: Alcohol has a numbing effect on your mind and body, including your penis. If you have issues getting it up and you have also started increasing the amount of drinks you have, including the frequency, then consider cutting back. Heavy drinking increases your risk of ED.

4. Stress: If you are stressed at work, home or in your relationship, it will affect your sex life. You need to be a relaxed to get in the mood for sex. This problem can also be a catch-22, because if you cannot get it up, you start to stress about that too, making it even more unlikely you will have an erection. So, basically, just relax.

5. No coffee: Studied have found that 42 percent of men who drink between two to three cups of coffee a day are less likely to have erectile dysfunction. Caffeine helps relax the arteries and the smooth muscle within the penis which, in turn, helps increase blood flow.

6. Not enough s e x: The more s ex you have, the less likely you are to suffer from ED. What is considered regular? Experts say you can shoot for three s ex sessions weekly.

7. Smoking: The more you smoke, the more you risk your penis abilities. 23 percent of erectile dysfunction occur among men who smoked.

8. Lack of exercise: Exercises, especially weight resistance ones, do a lot to increase a man’s testosterone which helps reduce the likely of ED. Your levels or testosterone drop as you age, exercise will ward off a drastic drop.

9. Cycling: Are you an avid cycler? Studies have shown that the longer you ride your bicycle, the higher your chance of developing ED. You do not have to stop riding though, just make some modifications. You can ride shorter distances, give yourself a rest, find comfortable seat and get a bike that is sized appropriately.

10. Your medications: Some medications like anti-hypertensives and antidepressants can cause erectile dysfunction. Talk to your doctor about other options.

Ladies, Value Your Bodies… A Must Read…

​Thing about sex with many people is, it starts to lose value after a while. You meet a woman in the morning, you have a conversation during which some chemistry is realized, you have lunch and supper together and you spend the night together. Next week, same thing happens with another woman and before you know it, you’re sleeping with three women in one week. And since you have realized that sex comes easy, you stop valuing it. It becomes something you expect from every woman on the very first night you meet her and if you meet a good one who doesn’t want to give it up on the first night, you walk away to another tree where the fruits are lower and more accessible. You even become too lazy to go on an actual date because your objective is to get laid and you know you can and will get laid by someone without even having to buy her a cup of coffee. Soon, you find yourself thinking you should get laid by any woman with whom you have some sort of chemistry. Like it’s your right. I mean, you’re clicking four or five women in a week. And they are not prostitutes either. No. They’re just women who you meet at work, or during a night out or at a training in some big hotel. It starts getting to your head. You Are special. Especially because the reviews you’re getting are along the lines of “You’re amazing!” If even three out of the five a week decide that you’re good in bed, it must be true. Then one morning you wake up feeling empty and sad and you can’t call any of them for a chat because you don’t even like them. You evaluate yourself and your life and come to the conclusion that you really are nothing. You belong to any one who will open their legs for you. You’re not special. You are cheap because you can be had by any one. We’re you currency, you wouldn’t be a fifty Ghana note. You’d be a twenty perswers coin. And there’s nothing worse in a man’s life than to wake up realizing you don’t value sex anymore. When sex is just another thing you do, like brushing your teeth or taking a shit or shaking someone’s hand in greeting. You find that you have grown cold, emotionless, inconsiderate. You find that you have turned into something you thought you’d never be.

8 Reasons Women Cheat: This May Surprise You!

Women cheat because of a lack of physical intimacy in marriage, a need to seek revenge for being done wrong or a desire for a few giggles and grins. Are those reasons or, are they excuses? Excuses that should never be accepted!

Most women have been taught since childhood to be “good little girls”, “behave like a lady”, and “grin and bear it”. Remember hearing the saying “little girls are made of sugar and spice, and all things nice”?

Fast forward to the 21st century, where women are now allowed to be tough, to say NO, to speak their mind, to become CEO’s and to enjoy sex. Women have become more assertive and in tune to their needs, wants and desires.

Some men like the fact that women are able to “talk the talk” and “walk the walk” while others feel intimidated by it. Without a doubt, this change has had a great impact on relationships between men and women, specifically the actions and behaviors of women.

According to 2012 statistics from the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 14% of married women have cheated compared to 22% of married men. Although women are not exceeding men in cheating, women are having emotional affairs and sex behind their man’s back. However, when a woman cheats, she is usually cheating for emotional intimacy while a man usually cheats for physical pleasure.

Women are still emotionally invested in their relationships. Women want to feel desired, wanted and irresistable. It’s quite phenomenal how far women have come in this world, from women’s lib, entering the workforce, becoming professionals, breadwinners of the family, and now getting their needs met; even if it means cheating. Now get ready to see what I reveal about why women cheat.

Reason 1. Lack of attention and intimacy:

How long can you go without receiving love and attention before you look somewhere else? Some can go for only days or weeks, and others can go for years. However, in general, women need and desire intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention.

If you are not receiving this from your husband or boyfriend, it will only be a matter of time and you may seek it from another i.e. a caring guy friend, the attentive guy who feeds your emotional needs at your workplace, or the hot trainer at the gym. Women deprived of attention, compliments, and compassion; usually have emotional affairs. That doesn’t mean it won’t lead to sex, but initially they crave the attention and compassion that has been absent from their relationship.

Reason 2. Revenge:

Being cheated on is a very difficult act to forgive. For those of you who have been cheated on, you know how awful it feels. You feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad, numb and even violated. It also affects your self-esteem. At the moment, you find out your man cheated, your whole body begins to shake, you begin to sweat, your stomach drops, and you feel nauseated.

Clearly, it negatively affects your relationship, your mood, behavior, and your ability to trust the cheater ever again. When you have been cheated on, some of you may want to get revenge by making them feel the way you felt. This can lead you, to do the cheating next. The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a relationship problem. Communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in your relationship are a much better solution.

Reason 3. Bad sex:

Women need to feel desired and experience REAL orgasms during sex. If women are getting bad sex, not enough sex, non-emotional sex, or “wham-bam-thank-you-mam” sex, you may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look elsewhere for GOOD sex! This creates a temptation to seek sexual or emotional satisfaction elsewhere. In my opinion, it’s best to communicate your needs to your man with the hopes that he will step it up a notch. You can do this on your own or with the help of a sex therapist.

Reason 4. Weight loss/plastic surgery:

Male attention increases quickly after a boob job, a butt implant or weight loss, and so does your self-confidence. With all this male attention, your temptation to cheat rises, and it takes more self-control to resist some of those male offers. Once you realize other guys want you, your desire to act on it may have you feeling euphoric. However, be careful, act wisely and make your pros and cons list.

Reason 5. Financial independence:

When you feel financially dependent on your husband or boyfriend, it’s more difficult to speak up in arguments or leave the relationship. The fear of being alone and financially unstable keeps you in a one-down position. Now that women make their own money, enjoy working, and are good at it, the need to stay in an unhappy relationship is not necessary. That feeling of power and independence can be like seeing the red carpet laid out for you; all the way to those other fish in the sea.

Reason 6. Low self-esteem:

When you feel insecure about yourself, you have a need to seek validation from others. This can be in the form of sexual, emotional, or intellectual attention. When you don’t love or value yourself, you may project that onto the person you are in a relationship with, and believe they don’t love or value you. Even if your husband or boyfriend loves you greatly, you still may cheat because you find it hard to accept their unconditional love. I suggest reading one of the many self-help books out there on building your self-esteem, or get some counseling to help improve self-confidence.

Reason 7. Feeling under-appreciated:

When you are in a relationship, you like to please your man. Cooking a romantic dinner, buying sexy lingerie, and listening with your heart, are just a few ways you may show your love and appreciation. So what happens when you don’t hear “thank you, please or I love you.” Holidays and birthdays come and you don’t receive anything meaningful, nothing at all, not even a verbal acknowledgment. We all have thresholds, and once yours is reached, you may decide to act on a “thank you, please, or I love you” coming from another direction. Let your man know he may lose you if he continues to take you for granted.

Reason 8. Bored:

He doesn’t spray on that good smelling cologne anymore, his clothing is wrinkled, stained or way out-of- date. When he comes home from work (assuming he has a job), it’s the same old thing; “what’s for dinner”? When the weekend comes, he says he’s tired and just wants to relax at home, or go out to the same sports bar you go every weekend.

The routine is the same over and over again. You are no longer on the same page. You barely have anything in common. You are feeling emotionally distant from him. You find yourself looking at other prospects and fantasize about being with someone else. You begin to feel excited (something you haven’t felt in “forever”) just thinking about it.

There are many ways to spice up an old, tired relationship. Boredom is something that can be resolved with a little, or sometimes a moderate amount of effort. It requires both of you introducing new ideas and behaviors, and some spontaneity. Be sure of what you want.

Women should start proposing to men they feel like dating – Nana Hemaa Acheampomaa

The country director of Heritage Ghana, Nana Hemaa Acheampong has sent out a word of advice to the women in Ghana and Africa at large to start facing reality and stand up for their happiness. “Feel free to approach or propose to men you have feelings for and feels like dating”.

The media practitioner who shared her views with newsybase.com urged the women to start facing reality by giving men the needed respect in a relationship no matter the social class status of the woman. “Men are men and they have ego. No matter our status in life as women, we must respect our men. We should not let them feel insecure by bullying them with our exposure. When you do that, you scare your man away”.

“A lot of women live a life which will kick their men away anytime. We are obsessed with flashy things which drive us into some situations our men can’t handle yet we don’t do anything to improve their life. We must take our responsibilities as women and make a man a better being than going with the mind-set of gaining from them always”.

Currently, there seems to be a lot of relationships not working in our time for so many reasons. Every victim of a broken relationship is now seeking a “perfect relationship”. On her view on perfection in a relationship, the engaged woman who seemed madly in love said: “there’s nothing like a perfect relationship. Every relationship has its own issues but what makes you a matured woman is when you take charge and control them. We should get out of that fairy tale and movie world relationship we are trying to create for ourselves. When your man is going wayward, just find a way and get him on track than victimizing yourself and the relationship.

In our part of the world, women are not fancied expressing their love feelings to men. They dress and appear “big girls” which also scare guys, she commented by saying “every lady now looks good and appear great which in some way scare our guys away but I feel its time they start going for what they want. There is nothing wrong approaching someone you are in love with or have feelings for. It doesn’t make you cheap so go ahead and express your feelings. Its better we start talking than killing our emotions and acting funny when the guys we hesitated in approaching move with other ladies.

Love is something that seems to have lost its value now, but the love queen advised fellow women to know and understand what entails to love before they start a relationship. “Love peace, patient, caring, trust, a little jealousy, sacrificial etc and when you find yourself in there, you can’t control a lot of things but now we gladly enter a relationship without a lot of ingredients and we call it love.

“And our ladies should take their love life from the public’s eye. We should not be talking to friends about what out partners give or does not give us. We must go without egos and pride. We should be humble and tolerant. We should be bold to face what our relationship brings to us and we will have a beautiful relationship. We must be prayerful also” she ended by advising her fellow ladies.

Why Is It So Hard For Her To Start Over With Another Guy?

Why is it so hard for her to start over with another guy? Because the new guy will buy her food expecting her to eat it all, while the guy who’s always been there knows she’s a picky eater. The new guy will ask her to speak up, while the guy who’s always been there appreciates the way she mumbles. The new guy will notice how she wears the same t-shirt over and over again and be grossed out by it, while the guy who’s always been there doesn’t mind at all. The new guy will probably get annoyed of her god-awful singing and tell her to stop, while the guy who’s always been there has grown to enjoy it. The new guy would find her to be too much to handle and too complicated to deal with, but the guy who’s always been there knows her well enough to be able to understand why she is the way she is. Yeah, it’s never the same with someone new because it’s a different experience and it’s not supposed to be the same, but she’s just happy with what she’s familiar with and she’s satisfied with what she’s comfortable with. No girl likes starting over. There is no other guy who would accept her better than the guy who’s always been there would, and she loves the way he loves her.

Richard’s Valentine’s Message To All Single Mothers…A Must Read

​Dear Single Mom Friends,
I don’t know what this Valentine’s Day will look like for you but I wanted to make sure that amidst the noise of prepping for classroom parties and mailing grandparent cards, you heard the truth from someone. My dear friend, you are seen and you are loved.
I see you at drop off, wrestling to pull the baby carrier out of the car so you can lead the two big kids inside while balancing your sweet toddler on your hip and the carrier on the other arm. I know that your day will consist of drop-offs, then eight hours of work, then pick-ups, then helping your son with his homework and navigating a friend-crisis with your daughter while you prep the evening meal and attempt to entertain the little ones. After dinner, you’ll be the one to do the dishes, baths, and stories. And, after all of that, you’ll want to crash, but instead, I know you’ll fold laundry and pack lunches and prep for a night of feedings with the baby.
You may wear the “single mom” hat but anyone can see that you’re also rocking the “supermom” cape. Not because you do everything perfectly, but because you do everything , period. I have no doubt that your powers of dedication and selflessness and courage and tenacity are wearing off on those four beautiful children that you spend so much time worrying about. They are witnessing a hero in action every day.
It’s an honor to be your friend and to go through this adventure of parenting with you on my side. Even though our journeys are a bit different. Actually, because our journeys are a bit different, I’ve learned so much from you. You inspire me to be braver and see myself as capable in the moments when I’m tempted to I think, “I can’t do this.”
Your work as a mom matters greatly, but caring for yourself as a human being matters a lot too. Please don’t be afraid to ask for help or a break when you need one.
This year, on Valentine’s Day, please know how much I admire you. Please know that “single mom” does not define you. Know that you are not alone. Most importantly, though, no matter how loud or quiet this holiday is for you, know that you are dearly loved.
Forever your friend,

Richard Damien Cypher Ayitey