​Forgetting Him and Moving On

When you end a relationship, it is natural to feel lonely, disappointed, desperate and sometimes, sorry. Your heart, logic and conscience get in about and you are the arena. 

It gets you so confused and it feels like it’s the end of the world. Well, we all know it’s not. 
There are still a lot of fishes in the sea.
Break up in a relationship is a phase we all go through. Yes, it is very painful and difficult. But it wouldn’t help either if you would lament

about it over and over. As much as it hurts to lose someone you deeply cared for, the only thing left to do is to move on. There is no easy way to get over a break up. It is a long process that can be very lonely and depressing. Losing someone gives the worst feeling in the world. 
At some point, you may feel like losing yourself and become jailed by the memory. 
While moving on from a relationship takes time, it is definitely an experience you wouldn’t forget.
How to move on ?
The first step on how to move on is acceptance.

The sooner you accept it’s over, the sooner you can forget about him. Admit to yourself that he is no longer a part of your life. It can be very depressing after a break up. There will come a time you will feel a strong urge to call him. Try your hardest to resist. Remember, you are the girl. You have to be wooed. If he wants you back, he should court you. It should not be the other way around. Remind yourself why you have broken up with him or vice-versa. You wouldn’t break up with him in the first place if it was a shallow reason.
If he dumped you, then, he is not worth it. There is someone out there who will be willing to reciprocate your love.
Cry. Talk to your mom, to your sister or to your best friend. Talking about your emotions lessens the loneliness. You will need all the

comfort, care and support from your loved ones.
Start filling up your calendar. Call your group of friends and schedule a girls’ night out. Attend parties and go to bars. Meet new people and have the time of your life. But remember not to party too hard and get wasted every night. You can flirt with guys but do not leave the party with them. If you can’t bring a friend, say no. One-night-stands will just make you feel horrible when you’re sober. Just stick to having a good time and not wrecking your life.
Find a new hobby. You want to fill all the time that you used to spend with him. Enroll in cooking classes, take music lessons or whatever interests you. Channel your energy and convert that sadness into drive to learn something new.
Excel in your career. Nothing’s more fulfilling than becoming successful. Focusing on work would take your mind off the break up. Especially if you start hearing compliments from your boss, you’ll be more inspired to do better.
Break up in a relationship is tough. But it’s a life lesson worth learning.

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​What kind of Christian are you? (1)

From The UCB Word For Today
‘They…recognised them as men who had been with Jesus.’

Acts 4:13 NLT

The Pharisees were self-appointed experts in matters of dietary laws, dress codes, etc. These practices allowed them to decide who was ‘in’ and who was ‘out’. And what’s worse, the insiders became judgmental towards the outsiders. Dallas Willard writes, ‘How many people are repelled by Christians who are unfeeling, stiff, unapproachable, boringly lifeless, and dissatisfied? Yet such Christians are everywhere.’ The truth is, when our lives aren’t marked by genuine joy and devotion to Christ we start looking for superficial ways to distinguish ourselves from the people we classify as ‘worldly’. Jesus didn’t do that! When He was asked to identify what the law was all about, He simply replied, ‘Love God and love people’ (see Mark 12:29-31). Paul writes, ‘If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal’ (1 Corinthians 13:1 NIV 1984 Edition). It’s possible to think you’re becoming more spiritual, when in fact you’re becoming what Mark Twain termed ‘a good man, in the worst sense of the word’. Winston Churchill had a political opponent called Cripps, an arrogant man who was widely disliked for his smug self-righteousness. The story goes that one day Churchill saw Cripps passing by and remarked, ‘There but for the grace of God, goes God.’ One of the greatest compliments ever paid to the apostles is that they were ‘recognised…as men who had been with Jesus’. The strongest argument for Christianity – is Christians drawing life from Christ. The strongest argument against Christianity – is Christians who are smug, judgmental, and complacent. So, what kind of Christian are you?

Bible in a Year: Lev 8-10; Matt 25:31-46;

To Be Continued…