​MY WIFE, I AM SORRY (A heart touchin story) A must read

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He woke up in the morning and found her praying. He heard her praying for him .He stared at her. It has been a long time since he has seen her praying. For the past few months, they have been arguing. Last night, they had a nasty fight .He went downstairs in a hurry to prepare himself breakfast. 

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These past days, she hasn’t been cooking for him.. He found breakfast already set at the table. He ate. He went back to the bedroom, to prepare for a shower. She left the shower.”Good morning. Have a blessed day” she said as she entertained the bedroom and he left for the bathroom. After his shower, all dressed up for work; he found his wife at the kitchen, eating breakfast in peace. She was looking at some funny videos on her phone and giggling. He looked at her then walked out the door. The last look he had of her before he left was of her at peace.That last look disturbed him. This is not how she should be. This is not how she has been. 

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He has been hurting her, she has recently found out that he has been flirting with other women, he has cheated once and used money meant for their family on other women. She should be angry.Her peaceful demeanor disturbed him.Evening came. He went home and met his peaceful wife again. She was cooking and laughing with their children. She had come from work two hours ago.The dinner was enjoyable. 

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Good food, she having warm conversations with the children. He as the father felt left out. His wife and children seemed to be having fun despite him hurting them.After dinner, as she washed the dishes and the children had gone to bed. He approached her.”Are you OK?” he asked her.”I am more than OK. I am blessed” she answered.”Are you not mad at me? After all that I am doing and have done wrong?” he asked, she placed the washed plate in the rack then looked at him and said, “I asked myself, what is the most important relationship in my life? The one I have with you or the one with God? And I realised it is the one with God.

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I live for God, not for you. Marrying you was a blessing but it is not all there is in life. God has blessed me with life and I will not waste it crying because of the hurt you cause me to feel”She picked up a dirty glass and began washing it.”I realized I had given you too much power. Yes, you are my husband, the closest human being in my life and the human being I love the most; but you are not God. You have failed me but God never fails me. I will not let you ruin my joy, my peace and my progress. 

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You can break our marriage if you want to, but I will hold on to God. And as I hold on to God, I will be full of joy despite what you do” She said rinsing the glass.She looked at him and continued, “When you hurt me and disrespected me, I realized I was acting out like a woman who has no Jesus. I got mad and hurled insults, I wanted to revenge and I allowed you to mess me day after day. My performance at work went down, I talked less to our children, I became bitter to the children, I felt sorry for myself, I developed ulcers. And then I realized, I have God, I shouldn’t act like someone with no relationship with God. Why should I be hopeless yet God is with me?I had focused so much on you that I forgot about God. 

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When you found me, I had God. We dated and got married and I let everything be about you because I wanted to make our marriage work. Our marriage became the idol I worship instead of the blessing I have in God. Our marriage is failing apart because of you but my relationship with God is still intact”She scrubbed the sufuria.”You have chosen to abandon our marriage but that doesn’t mean my whole world has collapsed. I will still continue being a good mother to our children. They will never say the problems between mom and dad made mom a monster. You do as you please with other women, I will raise our children”She looked at him and told him, “Do I hate you? No, it will be a lie to say I hate you. You are the man I married, the one I vowed to, the one I love”

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Tears fell down her cheeks. She wiped them.”I can’t just cancel all the years we’ve been together. The Bible asks us to love our enemies. If I am able to love my enemies, surely I can still love you despite all you have done. I am angry and disappointed, but I have taken my power back. I live for God who has exceedingly blessed me, not for you and the pain you cause”She wiped her wet hands, took the apron from her body and told him, “In my peace, I am planning on where the children and I will move to. Since you have chosen to have an affair, you have shown clearly that you don’t need us. 

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So we will not make your life uncomfortable by forcing you to live with us. You need to be able to bring the woman you are cheating with to your own house. I am working on something. I came into this house in peace and I will leave in peace. You will not kill my smile and shine”She walked to the bedroom.Minutes later. He followed her to the bedroom. He found her peacefully asleep.He nudged her. He woke her up and said, “Please don’t go, don’t move out. I will hurt you no more, I will cheat no more. I am not OK. I want the peace you have. I want to be the kind of husband you are as a wife”

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Since that day, he has been a reformed man. No more affairs, hurting her, no flirting with other women, or endless fights. She didn’t move out. She and the children stayed. He submitted to God and learned how to be a good husband,Love is powerful enough to humble the most proud heart.

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God bless Us All

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​6 SIGNS HE’S NOT RIGHT FOR YOU

Pretty much everyone wants to be in love and have that special someone for companionship, friendship and support, and to build a life with. But in today’s fast-paced world and despite amazing advancement in technology, we still seem to have trouble finding the right one.

In fact, sometimes we get frustrated and settle for the wrong one. Here are some signals that the one you are with right now is not Mr. Right.
• SirUnavailable. He’s difficult to get in touch with. That’s usually asignthat he isinvolvedwith someone else or he actually is a work-a-holic. Either way, you are left in the cold, so let him be.

• Mr. Mean. He doesn’t compliment you. He hasn’t said anything nice since you first went out. That’s a sign that he doesn’t value you. He should be proud to have a lady on his arm, and while he doesn’t have to shower you with compliments, there’s gotta be something he sees in you and he needs to say it.
• Dr. Good Time Now and Then. Whenever you are together, you have agreat time. The problem is it only happens once in a while. When he makes time, it’s all cool and wonderful. But he is not taking you serious if it’s only occasional. Youknow how it is… when a man really wants a woman, he does what it takes to be with her.
• Mr. Mama’s Boy. Oh no. This is the one who wants you to do his laundry, cook for him rather than go out and can’t seem to keep a clean place. He is looking for a mama.Find a manwho can take care of himself.
• Mr. Stubborn. He’s notflexible. He makes the rules and he makes most of the decisions as to where you will go, what you will see and maybe even what you will wear. Successful relationships involve compromise, so for the longterm, this would mean trouble, unless you think you can be happy being a doormat.
• Mr. Nonchalant. He doesn’t seem to care one way or other whether or not you are in his life. In fact, if you walk away, he won’t try toget you back. You are just a convenience to him. He’s basically a quitter that doesn’t fight for anything, and that means you, too.

​2 COMMON SIGNS YOU’LL SEE WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS TIRED OF YOU. 

2 COMMON SIGNS YOU’LL SEE WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS TIRED OF YOU. .
. Calling you will significantly drop. They automatically stop calling or even when they manage to call, they will never sound like that sweet guy/Girl You know him/her to be. Sometimes you’ll do the calling yet they act as though you are disturbing. Sometimes they will get unnecessarily angry when You ask what the problem is and they always in a haste to drop the call with a cold “Bye”..

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  1. Your partner avoids you online. I really wonder why most people can’t read between the lines. When your bf/Gf sees you online and doesn’t say a word, I mean, when They do this repeatedly then know they are done with You…simple! They begin to see you as a bug and at that time, they think “What do we really have to discuss?” They think this way because they are practically tired of you.

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Don’t forcefully be their number two when someone out there is dying to have You as their number one…. No time for Nonsense 

​VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION

I get lots of questions on masturbation even when I have talked about it on this platform. This questions are most especially asked by ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I’m not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.
Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about sex. 
Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).
From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It’s a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven’t committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you get hot and horny? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity at theseame time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:
1. Masturabation is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL FORNICATION
2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.
3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don’t enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won’t be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won’t have feelings for your husband’s penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands’ penis are too small didn’t marry as virgins. They must have been promiscous as singles.
4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won’t enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!
5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It’s the reason some women are seemingly “barren” and can’t talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!
6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouse).
7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.
8. You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.
9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscous.
10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.
11. You are at risk of hell fire!
These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces!  What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?
1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!
2. Avoid friends who say dirty,lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.
3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.
4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great. I had a strong sex drive in the institution. I simply channelled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I burnt the energy on my studies. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship bible study co-ordinator. If you don’t burn that energy, you will have sex.
5. Study the word a lot especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word, you have no space for the devil and his demons in your heart.
6. Pray and speak in tongues always. It sanctifies you.
7. Make friends with godly people.
8. Avoid pornography and romantic movies.
9. Get busy in kingdom service.
10. Give your life to Jesus if you are not born again. He will surely help you out.
Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it. Jesus can help you. Call on him! God bless you. Good morning 
BE GUIDE & BE WISE.