Why would a man want to date an older woman? Well, older women are
often more mature, and financially independent, but they can also be better
lovers and usually won’t mess with your head too much. These are just
some of the positive aspects of dating an older woman.
It is still quite typical, almost cliche to see an older man with a much
younger woman. There is still ways to go before the idea of a woman
dating a man much younger than her becomes fully accepted.
It’s time that men start realizing the benefits of dating older women. A lot of
the time, we complain that women don’t know what they want and that
they’re high maintenance. Well, why not change things up and try dating
women that can appreciate some of the different things a man has to offer.
For instance, let’s take the example of a man in his mid-twenties who dates
a woman in her early or mid-thirties; it is likely that he will go through an
enriching life changing experience. Your average twenty-year-old woman is
energetic, ambitious and out to get things done. Now, you take a woman in
her thirties, chances are she’s lived a little more. She’s learned that the
world isn’t all it was cracked up to be, and she’s less likely to be over-enthusiastic about driving twenty miles to go to dance clubs that charge a
twenty dollar cover and serve cherry flavored water.
This means that in exchange for peace of mind, you have to be willing to
accept some of the implications that may come with dating an older woman.
More often than not, however, the advantages overwhelmingly surpass the
Let’s start with the not-so-good news.
Commitment and Biological Clocks : There’s nothing wrong with a May-September relationship because a woman has as much right as a man to like
someone younger. To find that perfect older woman, you might have to
consider her plans to start a family. Remember, her biological clock is
ticking real fast. Since she wants to date a young man, however, there might
be a chance that she just wants to have fun with an energetic man without
having to worry about having babies. So before jumping into a relationship,
find out if she’s looking to have kids right away.
Past Baggage: Along with those great years of sexual experience, some
unresolved issues and excess baggage may come attached to the package
and should be considered because well, life happens.
Ex-boyfriends, husbands, children, ex-step-children, pending divorces,
business pressures, financial obligations, and debts can often be part of the
You must be ready and willing to accept this reality if you are going to get
romantically linked with an older woman. This is not to say that you will be
asked to deal with these issues per se; rather, you must realize that an older
woman generally has more to worry about than that bushy-tailed co-ed at
Mrs. Robinson: One cannot deny the allure of the older woman, younger man
relationship. But, this relationship remains slightly taboo, unlike the other way
around, where the man is much older than the woman, which still to this day
remains more widely acceptable. After all, no one raised an eyebrow when
Catherine Zeta-Jones married Michael Douglas.
Like it or not, by getting involved with an older woman, you are putting
yourself in a situation where the moral majority — people like your parents
and boss — might frown upon you and question your decision. On the up
side, you may become your buddies’ hero, and they will start begging you to
reveal what it’s like.
In any case, people will talk. If you are secure enough in the relationship, or
you actually like the attention, then by all means, proceed.
The cougar: While we’re on the topic of what people will think, keep in mind
that older women have been dubbed ” cougars ” and they get a bad rep. In
this type of relationship, it seems the woman is often in control. Some think
that a woman who dates a younger man does so because she can easily
manipulate him; that the man in question will be so awestruck by her
attention that he will go along with whatever she says. But this is only a
myth and certainly does not necessarily apply to every situation.
On to the good news: the benefits of dating the cougar.
Experience: It’s amazing what an extra ten years of experience can teach
you. Older women don’t beat around the bush (they let you do that). They
know exactly what they want and they know what to do to get it.
A man is terrible when it comes to taking the time and effort to figure out
what a woman really wants. An older woman has learned not to waste
precious time waiting for the man in the shining armor to sweep her off her
More often than not, an older woman has faced her insecurities and fears
head on, and has dealt with them to the best of her abilities. She likely has
enough life experience to know what matters and what doesn’t.
Consequently, she’s above the petty nonsense that drives you crazy about
women your own age. An older woman has figured out what looks good on
her, and knows enough about male-female relationships to not bother you
with feminine trivialities that usually serve to turn men off.
Older women have the self-confidence that could only come from experience
and the knowledge that they can handle whatever life throws their way. That
is not to say that they never have a bad day, but merely that it’s probably
due to something more than the fact that they have a pimple and a party to
go to that night.
Independence : Older women are often more established in their careers and
rely less on a man to support them or a potential future family. An older
woman’s independence is a strong stress reliever for any man. This takes
away some of the pressure from a man’s shoulder to support the relationship
(i.e. you won’t go broke).
There are exceptions to the rule of course but generally the more professional
experience she has, the more ability she has to pay for her way.
Maturity : Older women know how to appreciate the truer things in life. They
don’t play head games and don’t value the materialistic ideals that are
pushed through the media. You might be happy to find out that it’s possible
to carry a meaningful conversation without worrying too much about
discussing trivialities. You also don’t have to worry about returning her home
before midnight to meet a curfew.
The benefit of dating an older woman is especially apparent on vacations.
Younger women sometimes have the tendency wanting to always want to do
something. They might say silly things like, “We paid all this money to be
here, we should make the most of it.” This is a phrase that no man in his
right mind ever wants to hear. A man goes on vacation to drink over-priced
beer while sitting in a Jacuzzi contemplating what to order next at the all-you-can-eat restaurant.
Boy toy: Often, older women are newly divorced, and looking to have a good
time. Getting involved with a man who isn’t looking for a serious relationship
and wants to have fun is the perfect solution. Younger men have the stamina
and carefree attitude to satisfy their need for a wild ride. So, if you’re looking
to learn a thing or two between the sheets, look no further than an older
woman. After all, she’s no longer sexually inhibited, knows what she wants,
and probably has a few tricks up her sleeve.
Go for it
Well, I hope my little rant has helped open some minds, but most likely if
you’re a man, you probably weren’t listening, and if you’re a woman, you
already know I’m full of rubbish. I encourage most men to give this whole
idea a second thought, I bet you’ll save yourself a lot of headaches.
In the end, it’s up to you to weigh the pros and cons of such a relationship
and decide if it is right for you right now.