​ADVICE TO MEN ABOUT THEIR PREGNANT WIVES

Men, today I want us to discuss about PREGNANCY.
Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to state of health of the mother and unborn child??
Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes.

It’s just 9 months, not like it’s forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It’s a seed planted by you germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.
Pregnancy is preparation to welcome a new member into the family. Pregnancy is a journey fun filled, amazing etc.
Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.
■Once in a while she would nag

■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread

■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make you your meals

■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps. Please pardon her… carrying the baby ain’t easy.

Her needs may be unsatisfiable at times.

The first Tri_mester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.

●While most women are busy vomiting.

●Most of them sleep like water leaf, they sleep off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.

●While most women have fever.

●Most women be looking cranky and dry like Dustin powder.

●While most women add up weight.

●Most women appear like burnt offerings.

●Some even go round with White handkerchief spitting in it. ALL THESE ARE STILL YOUR WORK…..
Please tolerate this, it’s beautiful afterwards.

Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you cant stand her. But I get annoyed when I see men neglect their pregnant wife. She’s not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it’s not an easy journey for all.
The last Tri_mester is when you need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.
NOTE 1) Always observe your wife’s feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her leg once in a

while, it’s one of the best treat women enjoy during pregnancy.

2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She’s the carrier so she feels him/her move.

3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g ” Honey see as the pregnancy make you fine, I will be impregnating you every month ooo” or even “is it my child that makes you fresh like this pass normal” Even if she has grown bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her.

4) Don’t be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. You need to feel little of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn’t carry it alone, it’s your baby you need to carry it together. (I don’t mean physical carriage though).

5) No rule book stopped sex during pregnancy, in short it’s the best sef…. do it. It’s not like the vagina stopped working during pregnancy. o boy continue the work that brings the pregnancy.

6) Don’t be ashamed to take her out. Take her out once in a while to those lovie dovie places you used to go together. They love it…
Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn’t easy.

I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that’s one of the times she needs you most.

A big shout out to all men who fully stand by their wives during pregnancy. God bless you all.

​THE ART OF LOVING AND THE JOY OF BEING LOVED.(Gen 2:24-25)

SEX IS NOT INTIMACY. It can be a part of intimacy. But sex does not equal intimacy. Yet almost every reference to intimacy in our modern culture is a reference to sex. Intimacy is the one thing that a person cannot live happily without. We can live happily without new cars and designer clothes, but we cannot live happily without intimacy.

WHAT IS INTIMACY? It is the process of mutual self revelation that inspire us to give ourselves completely to another person in the mystery we call love. LIFE IS A SELF REVELATION. We reveal ourselves to the people around us in a different ways. Everything we say and do reveals something about who we are.

Relationships are also a process of self revelation. But we often spend our tine and energy hiding our true selves from each other in relationships. This is the reason we struggle for intimacy. We want intimacy, but we avoid it. We want it badly, but we run from it. Why? Bcos having intimacy means exposing your secrets. Being intimacy means sharing the secrets of our hearts.

Intimacy requires that you allow another person to discover what moves you, what eats you up, what you are running from and what you are running toward.

MY GREATEST GIFT – Is to be willing to take off the mask and let down your guard, to set aside your pretenses and to share what is shaping you and directing your life. Intimacy is a complete and unrestrained of self.

IMAGINE LIVING YOUR WHOLE LIFE AND NEVER BEING REALLY KNOWN BY ANYBODY.

Relationships keep us honest. They provide the mirrors necessary to see and know ourselves. Isolated and alone, we can convince ourselves of all sorts of crazy things, but other people keep it real for us by drawing us out of our own imaginary worlds. They don’t allow us to deceive ourselves. Relationships help to make us out of our illusions and into reality. (read, Phil 2:5-8; 1john 4:18)