SEX IS NOT INTIMACY. It can be a part of intimacy. But sex does not equal intimacy. Yet almost every reference to intimacy in our modern culture is a reference to sex. Intimacy is the one thing that a person cannot live happily without. We can live happily without new cars and designer clothes, but we cannot live happily without intimacy.
WHAT IS INTIMACY? It is the process of mutual self revelation that inspire us to give ourselves completely to another person in the mystery we call love. LIFE IS A SELF REVELATION. We reveal ourselves to the people around us in a different ways. Everything we say and do reveals something about who we are.
Relationships are also a process of self revelation. But we often spend our tine and energy hiding our true selves from each other in relationships. This is the reason we struggle for intimacy. We want intimacy, but we avoid it. We want it badly, but we run from it. Why? Bcos having intimacy means exposing your secrets. Being intimacy means sharing the secrets of our hearts.
Intimacy requires that you allow another person to discover what moves you, what eats you up, what you are running from and what you are running toward.
MY GREATEST GIFT – Is to be willing to take off the mask and let down your guard, to set aside your pretenses and to share what is shaping you and directing your life. Intimacy is a complete and unrestrained of self.
IMAGINE LIVING YOUR WHOLE LIFE AND NEVER BEING REALLY KNOWN BY ANYBODY.
Relationships keep us honest. They provide the mirrors necessary to see and know ourselves. Isolated and alone, we can convince ourselves of all sorts of crazy things, but other people keep it real for us by drawing us out of our own imaginary worlds. They don’t allow us to deceive ourselves. Relationships help to make us out of our illusions and into reality. (read, Phil 2:5-8; 1john 4:18)