All posts by Richard Agbesi Ayitey

I am a young, dynamic and inspirational writer as well as a relationship expect. I also see the need to educate people on what is going on in the satellite and dongle world as well. I desire with a focused and objective mind to make this world be a better place. I make all these possible by imparting into others what I have learnt over the years. I do not rest at any point or in any satisfaction of mine but work to do more and even better in my research.

​THE ART OF LOVING AND THE JOY OF BEING LOVED.(Gen 2:24-25)

SEX IS NOT INTIMACY. It can be a part of intimacy. But sex does not equal intimacy. Yet almost every reference to intimacy in our modern culture is a reference to sex. Intimacy is the one thing that a person cannot live happily without. We can live happily without new cars and designer clothes, but we cannot live happily without intimacy.

WHAT IS INTIMACY? It is the process of mutual self revelation that inspire us to give ourselves completely to another person in the mystery we call love. LIFE IS A SELF REVELATION. We reveal ourselves to the people around us in a different ways. Everything we say and do reveals something about who we are.

Relationships are also a process of self revelation. But we often spend our tine and energy hiding our true selves from each other in relationships. This is the reason we struggle for intimacy. We want intimacy, but we avoid it. We want it badly, but we run from it. Why? Bcos having intimacy means exposing your secrets. Being intimacy means sharing the secrets of our hearts.

Intimacy requires that you allow another person to discover what moves you, what eats you up, what you are running from and what you are running toward.

MY GREATEST GIFT – Is to be willing to take off the mask and let down your guard, to set aside your pretenses and to share what is shaping you and directing your life. Intimacy is a complete and unrestrained of self.

IMAGINE LIVING YOUR WHOLE LIFE AND NEVER BEING REALLY KNOWN BY ANYBODY.

Relationships keep us honest. They provide the mirrors necessary to see and know ourselves. Isolated and alone, we can convince ourselves of all sorts of crazy things, but other people keep it real for us by drawing us out of our own imaginary worlds. They don’t allow us to deceive ourselves. Relationships help to make us out of our illusions and into reality. (read, Phil 2:5-8; 1john 4:18)

​MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK! !!!!!!

I used to interpret the saying “Marriage is not for small boys” to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.
I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage? 
Beaming, she retorted;  My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that. 
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.
So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always. 
Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his dresses he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours. 
I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage. YOU DO SOMETHING TO YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT  SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!
When it becomes your attitude to always please your husband or wife, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn’t rattle. 
She continued, my son, never carry how rich or poor your family is into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman. 
Love only compels would- be couples into marriage but it doesn’t sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages. 
Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You can’t get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. So minimise your expectations in marriage. 
To cut the long story short, as too much cook spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes couple should resist at all cost in marriage:
1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only use you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God. 
2) Let the man be head financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually, whilst the woman exercise diligence in the use of the tongue. 
3) Children are not the ultimate in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life. 
There has never been any automatic barrenness in a person. Abraham got Ishmael at age 86 but at age 100 and 90, they eventually got their Isaac. Isaac had a barren family for 20 years but eventually got his twins; Jacob and Esau etc. 
4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day’s stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not “Angels” in that marriage.avoid sleeping in separate rooms no matter your wealth.
5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes. Wife  should Pay attention to the words of their  husband in it you have wisdom for tomorrow.
6) Let the women ” Make up”  their characters much more than they make up their body. Appreciate your husband for whatever he is to you and your children.treat him as your Lord.
Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc. 
Make every effort to let that marriage work and may God help us. Amen.

​THE FIRST PRINCIPLE OF DATING IS”GET A LIFE” (pt 1)

If you don’t get a life of your own, you won’t be happy even if you marry. Why? B’cos you will have nothing to give to the relationship, and you will drain your spouse. Inevitably, you will put extraordinary expectations on the other to fulfill you, complete you and make you happy. NO HUMAN CAN PERFORM UP TO THOSE EXPECTATIONS. ONLY GOD CAN DO THAT.

The very first principle is to “GET A LIFE” – What happen when someone decides to break the first principle of dating. You put your life on hold. You become so consumed with finding someone to give them a sense of significance that real life has taken a back seat.

What happen if you don’t get life;

a. DESPERATION. a desperate person has  sense of urgency about finding a mate. He’s starving for someone to fill the emotional hole. This sister was running off men right and left. She was beautiful and rich. Her urgent need to fill a void kept her from going slower in order to allow a more normal, natural process of bonding to occur. Unfortunately their urge-to-merge strategy scares off potential mates instead of attracting them.

b. DEPENDENCE. A dependent person gains a sense of significance and security through others. He must be attached to someone in order to feel good about himself. Dependent person will hang on to sick or bad relationship–when a dependent person enters a relationship, he usually sucks the lifeblood out of the other person – of course, as humans we all depend on other to some degree for certain needs-this is normal and healthy.

c. LONELINESS. Feelings of loneliness are the number one complaints of singles who buy into the notion that someone else can make them happy. This can take many forms, but generally it is a condition that affects the whole person – They are unhappy at their single state. The more lonely you feel, the more likely you are to withdraw.

d. DETACHMENT. This person has detached himself from vital social relationships; the desire to spend time with friends, get involved in the community. For some people after series of bad relationships, she began to withdraw to protect herself. Abigail, a vivacious woman in her early twenties was one of the most outgoing people you could ever meet. However, after a series of hurtful relationships, she began to withdraw to protect herself. Unfortunately, her well-intentioned plan backfired. She gained more weight, sabotaged old friendships and distanced herself from even family members.

Watch-out for pt 2

BEFORE YOU SAY I DO” (just for my singles)

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHOM TO MARRY?
 Prince 9 years replied, no person really decides before they grow up who they’re going to marry. God decides it all the way before, and you got to find out who you’re stuck with.
WHEN PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE, we should gather the facts and learn as much about our potential mate as possible. We need to know the good and the bad. If a potential spouse holds back information and become secretive about various aspects of his/her life, warning bells should start ringing immediately.

WHEN PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE CONSIDER THESE QUESTIONS,

1) Can you identify a day or time period when you placed your faith in Christ for salvation?

2) Do you have certainty that your future partner has come to faith in Christ?

3) Are you both committed to intimacy in your communication as a couple and to the effort this will require?

4) Have you agreed always to tell your future partner the truth before and after marriage?

5) Have you discussed and come to agreement on what the Bible means when it says that the husband is to be a loving leader and the wife is to be a submissive helper?

6) Do you both want to be used of God to help your future partner come to full maturity as a christian?

7) Have you agree on how decisions will be made when disagreement occurs?

8)Have you both committed never to criticize each other in public?

9)Do you like the outlook on life and the values of your future partner?

10) Are you personally committed to making your marriage a success whatever the cost or sacrifice?

10 Possible Reasons Why He Didn’t Call You Back

We’ve all been there when our date hasn’t called us back. We’ve all sat on edge for hours on end, just waiting for the phone to ring. We try to act as though everything is normal and get on with our life, but most of the time it just isn’t possible. We can’t function without knowing why he hasn’t called us back. We can’t engage in conversation with our friends, and we can’t even eat. And don’t eventry to convince us to leave the house.

Sometimes, of course, the phone will ring and we’ll flip it open quicker than we’ve ever done anything in our life. Then we look sadly at the phone screen when we realise it’s just our friend calling. Or, worse still, it’s an “unknown number.” Sigh.

As more hours pass, you begin to resign yourself to the fact that he really isn’t calling you back. You stop taking your phone into the shower with you in case he rings and instead start asking the question, “Why? Why hasn’t he called back?”

If you’re currently experiencing existential inner turmoil over this eternally confusing question, we’ve got your back. We’ve also got 10 possible reasons why he didn’t call you. Let’s take a look.

He’s Still Hung Up On His Ex

Ex’s have a LOT to answer for. They’re often the prime reason why your date can’t commit to you, and they’re so very frustrating. You know they should be out of the picture by now, but for whatever reason they’re just not.

The thing is that some of us are just better at getting over our ex’s than others are. Perhaps for him it was first love, or maybe they broke up because of circumstances rather than because they hated each other. Maybe she broke his heart and he doesn’t want to go through that ever again. Only he really knows and you’re just going to have to bear with him. Or move on, of course.

You Asked Him The Wrong Questions

There is such a thing as first date etiquette, and it may well be that you overstepped your boundaries and asked him the wrong questions that have made him a bit cautious.

Perhaps you grilled him10 Possible Reasons Why He Didn’t Call You Back on intellectually stimulating subjects that you love, such as religion. Perhaps you made fun of his answers when he told you he likes Donald Trump. Maybe you pried too much into his past relationships, or maybe you dug too deep into his private life.

Have a think about the kind of questions you asked him and whether they were too sensitive.

He Is Scared Of Commitment

Maybe the date went really well and you both enjoyed yourselves. Perhaps you returned home feeling on top of the the world and expected him to do the same.

But wait a minute: He isn’t returning your call, so maybe he didn’t have such a good time after all? You were sure he did, though. He even said so.

Maybe he did have a really great time with you, but maybe he’s also got commitment issues. Maybe he returned home, got your call and then realised he didn’t want to get trapped in a potential long-term relationship.

Getting guys to commit is not easy, and sometimes you’ve just got to give them their space early on.

He’s Actually Really Lazy

Hey, maybe he hasn’t called you back yet simply because he’s lazy. This is a totally viable reason. He might still be snoozing on the couch, or he might even be embroiled in his Xbox.

They Might Genuinely Be Busy

I know, I know: The old saying is that nobody is ever too busy to return a phone call. Even the President of the United States of America can find a window of time during his busy day to return a call. So what’s stopping your date who told you he worked in a factory?

The truth is that people genuinely do get so busy during the day that they just find it really hard to squeeze in something like a phone call. You might think it sounds ridiculous, but if a man has a super busy workload, he’s going to make sure he gets all the tough and stressful stuff out of the way first before he relaxes and calls you back.

You’ve Already Added Him To Every Single Social Media Account

You’ve returned home and called him up. That’s cool. But if you’ve also added him to Facebook, followed him on Twitter and Instagram, you might be creeping him out a little. You might be coming on way too strong.

I know all this is only online stuff and as such “shouldn’t really matter,” but if you go too far too soon on social media, you could freak him out a little.

He’s Lost His Phone

This is a long shot, and it’s an easy excuse for anyone to make. But in the first 24 hours after you’ve called, losing his phone might be the reason he hasn’t returned your call.

Once the 24 hours elapse, though, he should find other means of getting in touch, such as Facebook.

He Might Have Other Intentions To Yours

So yeah, the date went really well. You both had a laugh, had a drink, had a chat and got to know one another. The date ended on good terms, and you both said what a lovely time you had.

This is all well and good, but what if your ultimate intentions are worlds apart? You might want a long-term relationship and he might just want to hang. Your time together might have confirmed your differences to him, and as such he’s now deciding that he doesn’t want to pursue you anymore.

Maybe He Just Loves Being Single

I know what you’ll say to this: “Then why did he come out on a date in the first place?!”

But maybe he just didn’t realise your ultimate intentions. Perhaps he thought you just wanted to hang out with him and have a laugh. But the minute you started to get serious and – if you’re anything like me on my first ever date – started talking about babies, he’ll have ran a mile.

Therefore, he might be mulling over how best to respond to you. You clearly want something more here, and he just wants to enjoy the good life of being single. It’s hard to accept, but that’s just the way things are sometimes.

He’s Not Interested

It’s sad – but it might be true. He might have told you at the end of the date that he had a good time just to be polite and not upset you. But now that the crunch time has come, he’s missing in action because he didn’t feel a “click” with you.

Stay happy!

10 Tips on how to protect yourself from heart breaks

 

Unless you are willing to isolate yourself completely and never form a bond with any other human being, you are likely to experience heartbreak at some time in your life. That, though, is very unlikely, because human beings are naturally very sociable, and there is so much to be gained from relationships. Is heartbreak just something we have to live with, or can we take steps to at least minimise the pain? Fortunately, there are steps that you can take to stop having to have your heart broken too many times, and to make those heartbreaks that you do experience less painful. Here are ten tips on how to protect your heart from heartbreak.

1. Don’t expect that every man you meet will be the one you marry

The first thing you can do, to make love and the heartbreaks that often come with it a little easier to bear, is to avoid rushing into new relationships and avoid blindly trusting every guy you meet. Fairy-tale romances are beautiful to believe in and you can hold a happy image of your future in mind, but don’t expect that every man you meet will be one you settle down with and marry. Life is never quite as simple, as it is in the movies, so listen to your heart as well as your mind, and you won’t be so disappointed if things don’t work out.

2. Use your head, as well as your heart

It is hard not to let your heart rule your head when you fall in love, but you really should try and find a balance if you can. Dating is not only about the great nights out and the fun time. If you are serious about a guy, then it’s about your future too. Try and take a cold, analytical look at the people you date and ask yourself, is he really the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?

3. Don’t settle for less than you deserve

You can’t sit on the side-lines, turning down everyone that you meet, but you have the right to be a little bit picky! Don’t jump into serious relationships with guys that you are unsure about and keep your eyes open for their faults. You should only be making commitments to men you are absolutely crazy about, so don’t settle for second best just because you don’t want to be on your own.

4. Don’t let love blind you to the truth

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but it doesn’t mend a broken heart. Don’t ignore he signs that he might be fooling around. It’s so easy to blind yourself to the obvious signs that a guy is messing you around. You tell yourself that ‘he wouldn’t’, ‘he couldn’t’ and ‘it’s not happening’. If you think that your man is playing away, then ask him for the truth, because if you ignore it, it will only make the inevitable breakup even more painful when it comes.

5. Don’t rush into things

Take things steady, even when you think you have met the One. If you go from first kiss, to moving in with him, within a few days, you are likely to be very disappointed. The idea of whirlwind romances sounds wonderful, but they rarely go the distance. If he really is the One, then he’s not going to mind you taking things slowly at first.

6. Talk about the relationship

When you are starting to feel that the relationship could be really going places, make sure that he feels the same way. Try and find out what his plans for the future are, and tell him how you are feeling about the relationship. You don’t want to find yourself saying: ‘But I thought you wanted the same things as I do’.

7. Keep your options open, especially in the earlier stages of a relationship

While cheating or flirting with other guys is never a good idea, you shouldn’t exclude all other members of the opposite sex from your life, just because you are in love with someone. It sounds a bit callous to say, keep your options open, but you really should, especially in the earlier stages of a relationship. You don’t have to completely alienate other men, because you’ve just met Mr Right; just let them know that you are not available, at the moment.

8. Don’t forget your friends

Your friends will be there for you through any number of different relationships, so long as you don’t dump all your friends the moment you fall in love. It’s healthy to have friends outside of a relationship anyway, so stay in touch with them and go out with them sometimes. Don’t make one man your entire world, however much you love him.

9. Listen to what other people are saying

You can date whoever you want, but it is still wise to listen to what other people say about your man. If your friends and family don’t seem to like your guy, there could be very good reasons for that. Sometimes, people who are not in the relationship can see far more, than the person who is in love.

10. Don’t lose sight of your own goals

Love is great; it’s a wonderful feeling, but it shouldn’t be the only thing in your life. Keep your hobbies, interests and follow your own dreams, because you are more than just the other half of a relationship. Your life is your own and, so long as you never lose sight of that, you will always have something else to concentrate on, if love doesn’t quite work out the way you had hoped it would.

Stay happy, love and be loved!

​THE HEAT OF VIRGINITY final episode 

FINAL EPISODE (16)
My mom then said to Ella. 
“You see everything is fine, I told you.” I then went to my room and Ella followed. I had to pretend to be happy with her to erase the doubts she was having, so we played board games and watched TV. When it was dark I dropped her off and came back home. I was going to my room and my mom called me. 
“I gave birth to you, I nurtured you, I took you to the best schools in the country. I made you got the best job a graduate can have. I have always looked out for your interest. I am your mother and I have been good to you since the day you were born. Now Mark , tell me the truth. What is going on?”
At that moment I knew I couldn’t keep it within me. I told her everything that happened. She then said. 

“I am totally disappointed in you. I brought you up well, only for you to be bewitched by that girl. I blame your father for making you serve in Krachi. Now Mark , you will take me to where you are housing them.”
“Now? It’s late mom.” I said

“Now Mark . And who else knows about this? ”

“Nobody just us.”

“It is going to remain that way.” Her driver then took us to Regina’s apartment. I knocked and Regina opened the door and said.

“Sweety, I was just …….” 

“Who is your sweety?” my mom cuts in.. Regina was scared to her teeth.

“Sorry mummy, I didn’t see..” she apologised

“Don’t call me mummy. Your mother disowned you because of your treachery.” We all stepped into the apartment.  

“Do you know who I am?” mom asked

“No ma” Regina answered in fear, almost kneeling down

“I am a Judge in Tamale. I can make life very complicated for you if you try to destroy what I have spent almost all the years of my life to build.” mom said angrily
Next thing Junior walked into the sitting room and cried out. “Mummy, Mummy …” He stood still as he saw the crowd. My mom saw him and said. 

“Oh my God, Mark !!” As she held my hand tight. There was silence for a minute. 
Mom then broke the silence by saying.

“The deed has been done, but if you truly love my son you will have to let him go. I was very angry but now I don’t have to show it because of him. He is innocent and does not have to suffer from your recklessness. I will make arrangements for you two to relocate to the UK. That is were you will spend the rest of your lives. You will have to get your educational documents and necessary documents for that effect. Tomorrow, you will leave for Accra and you both will stay there till your visas are ready.”
Regina was just sobbing and didn’t utter a word.

“My personal assistant will come tomorrow morning to facilitate the arrangements. This is the best I can do not for you, but for him Mark you have two minutes, I will be waiting in the car.”
She left for the car and I stood there looking at Regina.

“I fought for us Reggie and now see what it has led? I don’t think I will ever see you again. Good bye Reggie.” I then looked at Junior, I carried him one last time, kissed his cheek and blessed him. I dropped him down and headed to the car.
We got home and no word was uttered between my mom and I. The following morning I had a call from mom telling me to come immediately to Regina’s apartment,  I could feel mom’s voice shaking, I then rushed there only to see Regina lying on the floor with Junior on her chest both lifeless. 
She gave Junior a poisonous substance and took some herself after writing a note which read:
Second by second I think of you, How can all of this be true? Even after the comfort, Just the thought of you makes me cry,

I never even got to express my love no matter how I try,

I have no hope that it will ever get better,

I always smell your familiar scent,

It makes me think of all of the times we’ve spent,

So many things I never got to say,

I never imagined you’d ever be so faraway,

You were my destined love,

And I loved you like no other,

In my heart you’ll always be,

Until I breathe my last,

I will never forget your soothing voice,

I know there’s life after this life,

But now I have to let you rest,

I have to make your mom happy,

But I don’t want to be in London, 

I hope your wife will love and care for you like me, 

Staying alive will still bring those forces of love,

I’ll miss you with all my heart,

I wish we never had to part,

But I know we shall meet again,

And I shall prepare you rice, macroni and 3 pieces of meat,

Junior Loves you and I know you love him too,

But I’m sorry I can’t go without him.

So now, I guess this is my goodbye.

Please do not cry, I know it isn’t your fault. 

Till we meet again,  I wish you a happy marriage, 

Regina and Mark (Junior)
I was shaking and sweating allowing tears to flow freely like a river, I didn’t know when I gave out the loudest cry in my life throwing the note at mom. I feel she was the cause of this but…. Hmmmm.
It was 20th November, 2016, about two years after Regina and Junior left us. I married Ella and we had a daughter but their memories would forever remain evergreen in my heart……….until I breath my last. 
I thought deeply as I dropped the pen and closed my diary wiping tears away from my eyes. I still can’t control my tears anytime I think of them. I still love them and may their souls rest in perfect peace.
THE END
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​THE HEAT OF VIRGINITY episode 15

Episode 15
I grabbed unto her B—m and I began to suck her Tips.
“Oh Mark, there hasn’t been anybody else apart from you. No one has touched me and no one will but you. Take me Mark ” I was unbuttoning my shirt and she was pulling her bum shorts… We were Unclad and kissing, catching up from where we stopped years ago.
I then inserted into her, she moaned. She was so wet and creamy. That feeling, that same feeling, everything was coming back to me.
We made love not sex, it was love.
When we were done she said.

“Oh Mark , you released in me again.”

“Oh shit, I am sorry.” She then laughed.

“It’s okay, I am safe. My ovulation had passed.” We both laid down on our backs in silence. She then broke the silence and said. “Is she more beautiful?”

“Come on Reggie, Please.”

“Is she better than me? Does she satisfy you like the way I do?” “I am afraid, I can’t answer you.”

“Do you still love me?”

“I can never stop loving you Reggie.”

“Then why can’t you marry me?”

“My family and her family are already involved.”

“I love you with my life, and I understand you have moved on. I cannot ask you to leave her for me. I want to ask you one Question Mark. Will you choose to marry a lady you love or a lady you are trying to love?” She asked the most shocking question
“If I am left with that choose I will choose you. But I told you, our families are already involved.”

“Am I not worth fighting for?”
I became bewildered and completely helpless. I couldn’t answer her question. so we slept off. In the middle of the night she woke me up by sucking my manly, I was completely lured and ignited. Overwhelmed by the flame of passion I grew. She then posed in a doggy position and her bum was just right in front of me. I stood to mount on her and rammed into her till we were both wasted.
The following morning, I left for home. Unfortunately I met Ella at my place, she was seated in the sitting room and my mom was comforting her. She was in tears. My mom then asked me.

“Where are you coming from Mark ? Your chairman said you guys arrived last night”

“A friend of mine was having a party so I had to attend.”

“Is that why you switched off your phones Mark ?”

“My batteries ran down.” My mom then said to Ella.

“You see everything is fine, I told you….
WATCH OUT FOR THE FINAL EPISODE (16)

​THE HEAT OF VIRGINITY episode 14

Episode 14
She took a deep breath in and was downcast. 
“I know you have suffered because of the decisions we made in the past. I cannot erase the past but by God’s grace, I can make your future and Junior’s better. You will write WAEC again, you will pass and you will gain admission, junior will go to the best schools and he will make us proud. But you need to keep to your word. And I will keep to mine.”  I then hugged her and left.
At home in my room, I was deep in thoughts. I was wondering if this my plight will remain secret. Ella and I had our wedding penned in a few months, our families are involved and the planning had begun. 
Days later, I was in Port Harcourt and I was kept abreast about the progress being made regarding Regina’s accommodation. I was very impressed at the development. I just wanted her to have a place she could call home and raise our child.
Ella noticed something different about me and I was tired of giving her the excuse that I was ill. I later told her I developed cold feet regarding our planned wedding. That I will be fine. I returned to Tamale after my official assignment and the first place I went to was Regina’s new apartment.
I made sure it was far from my place to avoid any trouble. I got to her door and I rang the bell. She then opened the door. She was looking more gorgeous than ever. She had her hair done, her nails, she even added little weight. She had a smile on and I just stood there looking at Regina…. She had a bum shorts on, with a half top. She was amazingly sexy, I just couldn’t help but stand there and look or should I say lust on her.
“Are you going to stand there?” She asked bringing me back to reality

“Oh sorry.” I apologised
As I entered the apartment. The sitting room was beautiful with a touch of different shades of purple. I was very impressed by her choice of taste and luxury. I knew she had it in her… 
“I know you must be hungry.” She said

“Yes, I am starving but where is Junior?” 

“He’s asleep, come let me serve you dinner.” She sat me down on

the dining section and she served me a dish.
I opened it and what I saw took me through memory lane. It was rice, Macroni and 3 pieces of meat. Just like the old days. I looked at her and she was all smiling. Flash backs began to usher in my thoughts, visualizing faded images in my memory that was once clouded. I began to fill a little spark.
After the lovely meal, she started taking me round her beautiful apartment, and the last place we stopped was her room. It looked cozy and very calm. She then stood before me and said. 

“Remember the first night we spent together?”

“Yes I remember. How can I forget?” We both stood there looking at each other.
All I could see was a lady I once loved with all my heart and she buttressed my thoughts with a touch on my face. Her hand on my face felt like those times. I heard voices in my head. 
“Kiss her!!.” repeatedly.
Then I kissed her, she kissed me back and we started kissing aggressively. I pulled off her shirt and her Tips… Oh my God! I had missed them. I haven’t been intimate with anybody else and my cup was more than full.
REST AND WAIT FOR EPISODE 15

​THE HEAT OF VIRGINITY episode 13

Episode 13
“His name is Mark.” 
I took a pause and looked at him, he was already asleep. I didn’t know whether to touch him, carry him or something. I was just too unprepared for these before me.
“I cannot stay here in Krachi.” She said

“Then where do you want to stay? You can’t come with me to Tamale” I said calmly

“Mark , I have nobody, nobody. I have been rejected by my family, friends and relatives. The only person I have is you and my baby. I can’t stay far away from you, Please.” she said
“Reggie, a lot has happened these few years. I have moved on and you being close could affect everything my mother has established for me, everything I have worked hard for recently. It can destroy me Reggie.” I pleaded
“Mark , I understand but I need someone to run to, someone to depend on. I will never interfere in your life again. I just need a new place to start all over, I don’t want my baby to go through what I went through. I need to further my education, you helped me once and I know you can help me again. I can’t provide for and protect our child Mark…… ” She said
I started to reflect on everything she said. I looked at the child, my child and I felt so sorry. I knew I can’t deny them solace, cant deny them what they want. That’s my blood she’s talking about. I was hasty in conclusion. I looked at my watch and it was almost 1 pm.
“Reggie, if we have to go to Tamale, we have to go now. Go pack your things, I will be waiting in the car.”
It took us about 5 hours to get to Tamale. I lodged them in a hotel and handed her GHC 200 in case she needed anything urgent that night. I then left for home. I avoided everyone and went straight to my room. I was very unsettled and completely in distress.
Ella had been calling me but I was too weak to pick her calls. The following day, I drove to pick Ella so we could go to church. She noticed I was not myself and she asked me.
“What is wrong Mark ? you have been acting strange.”

“I am pretty ill, but I will be fine.” I insisted it was a flu.
After church service, I dropped Ella at her place and I went home to get some stuffs for Regina and Junior. I got Regina a new Phone and Junior, some of my old toys and lots of candies. I got to their hotel room and she appeared more relaxed. Next thing I heard was. 
“Daddy!!”.
I saw the excitement on his face, it sent a cold chill through my spine. Then Regina said. 

“Junior, come on stop that. He is uncle not Daddy.”  

“uncle!” he then said
I smiled, for he looked so adorable. I gave him his goodies

“Thank you uncle.”

I was amazed and there was this urge inside of me to spend time with him.
“Reggie, try and relax today, tomorrow you will go shopping with Junior. Here is GHC 3,000 for you 2. The driver will come tomorrow in the morning, he will also help open an account for you as well. I have told him to secure an apartment for you in a

very good environment. It will take you guys 3 days at most to furnish and set up the place to your taste.”
“Are you not going to be around?” She asked

“I told you I will be traveling this week and will be very busy. I may not see you till I return from my trip. But I will always call you….”
Be calm for episode  14