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TEN (10) GOLDEN SECRETS OF MARRIAGE

TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND THOSE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON

 
1. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS
Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength.

 
2. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY
No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be change. So Focus on the present and the future!

 
3. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES
Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!

 
4. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS
Don’t compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.

 
5. TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR
When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

 
6. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE
There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back hassles and If this parts are not properly maintained, the car will brake down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. – Many of us are careless about our marriage… Are you? If you are, pls pay attention to your marriage.

 
7. GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE
He (God) gives you, him or her in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hours but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve.

 
8. TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK
You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she’s slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.

 
9. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT
Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce.

 
10. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY
Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdrawn. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

 
May God Give us The Grace And Wisdom To Build A Heaven on Earth Marriage.

​How to Improve your Sexual Life

 

Are you having a satisfying, pleasurable sex life? Or the spice of sex has already left your bedroom? Do not worry! This is quite a common problem with most of the couples today.  Tedious routine, ever- increasing level of competition and pressure at work, quotidian chores and messy life often take away your interest, mood and energy for having pleasurable sex. Various toys, oils, fragrances, apparels are available these days to enhance your interest in your sexual activities.

 

Mentioned below are some very interesting sex tips that you may use to improve your sex life.

 

Communication:

 

Salacious and spicy conversation works as a propellant for your sex drive. Indulge in interesting conversation about your sex life with your partner. Put forward your expectations and desires that you would want to fulfill or share your fantasies. Flirt a little to develop their as well as your interest in sex. As a listener too, try not to accuse, disregard their feelings, or complain. Have a happy, sorted-out conversation about all those factors that you think can improve your sex life.

 

Try new things:

 

New positions, new ambiance, new places and new lingerie, any sort of pleasant change is good to set the mood. Make efforts to make it different from the last time, this will bring more spice to your sexual pleasures.

 

Pleasurable oral sex

 

Take your foreplay all the more exciting and pleasurable with good oral sex. Instead of getting excessively sloppy, try to make slower and softer movements. Discover their body and figure out their sexually sensitive spots. Allow your partner to lead you with directions, so that you do exactly what he or she wants.

 

Exercise to stay fit:

 

Passionate sex demands cardio endurance. Regularly go for running, walking or swimming and try lifting lighter weights. Remember that while trying different sex position, you must be physically fir with high level of endurance. Also your body should be quite flexible to try various complicated yet pleasurable positions. Yoga and stretching is apt to gain flexible position.

 

It is about what you eat:

 

Your sex drive also relies on what you eat. No matter how seductive does wine, chocolates or other such stuff sound, they are not of much help physically. Food such as mackerel, salmon and wild salmon that contains high in Omega-3 fatty acids are good. Men should try L-Arginine rich food such as oatmeal, cashews, diary, garlic, soybeans, walnuts, ginseng, chickpeas, root vegetables and seeds.

 

Set the mood:

 

It is obvious that you would not be able to perform and enjoy with a disturbed or frustrated mind. Hence, having relaxed mind is very important for good sex. Try to set sexy ambiance with balanced use of candles, dim lights, special room fresheners, seductive fragrances and etc.

 

 

 

Use toys or lubricants to enhance the experience:

 

Spice up your foreplay with vibrators, jelly and other sex toys to be. However, while using these, ensure that both you and your partner are comfortable with it. Chocolate body paints, chains and cufflinks are quite popular props used by couples in bed for an extra push.

 

Get spontaneous:

 

Instead of planning out and taking out time, you may try to be spontaneous. This superbly exhilarating and also entice your partner to have unplanned sex. Try having sex at unusual places like kitchen or your couch. Choose complicated timing like when your spouse is getting ready for work or etc.

 

Time for sex:

 

Make time for sex. Do not fall under the impression that you can allow your sex drive to reach the max in the night only. Remember that morning or afternoon sex is as much fun and pleasurable as evening sex. If you are seriously falling short of time then indulge in pleasant sex talks, cuddling and kissing with your partner, so that they get to know that you are interested in sex.

 

Summary:

 

Today, every couple wishes to and is able to expand their romantic arsenal and make their sex life much more exciting and exhilarating with the inclusion of various sexual tips like sensual oils, erotic costumes, sex toys and etc.

 

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Is marriage becoming scary for young women? A must read…

I thoroughly enjoyed a conversation I had with some young women the other day on the topic of marriage.

Triggering many thoughts however, I felt slightly worried that the sacred institution of marriage was losing its shine among a group of young women.

As a young woman coming out of the university, I remember marriage was not that much of an issue. For some of us, our expectations were on getting into some fine civil service job as young graduates with the hopes of an assigned accommodation at the Switchback Road or such government apartments. Some of us also had eyes on working for banks. It was like a status symbol. Looking for Mr Right was to follow later.

Marriage and Mr Right
In my discussion with the young ladies, some of whom have achieved academic heights, my take was that getting married and starting their own families was on their minds. The big question, nonetheless, was finding Mr Right.

Considering the seriousness with which the young women spoke about their peers already in marriages, I figured that there was a genuine problem with young women finding the right men to settle down with. Not that the men were not coming forward. It was more the fear of ending up with the wrong man for the rest of their lives. I believed for a moment that they were speaking for many other young single professional women out there.

Divorce
So what is scaring these young women away from marriage? As our chat progressed, they told me about the experiences of some friends who had quit short-lived marriages. They had the thought that men of today were only in for fun in relationships and not to be tied down to family responsibilities.

According to them, the men most women courted at the beginning of a relationship were not the same men they exchanged rings with a couple of years down the line. One of them said in her circle of friends, about five of them who got married in the last four years were already separated or divorced. Another lady in the group discussion said out of six weddings she attended in the last three years, two of the couples were already divorced.

Sanity in marriage
Ideally, as young Christian professional women, they were looking to settle down in marriage but the examples of their friends’ short-lived marriages did not inspire them. One of them said there was only a thin line between sanity and insanity, hence she would rather keep her sanity as a single woman than plunge into insanity with a man whose real character would emerge only afterwards.

While one of the young ladies said she would rather look out for a Reverend Minister as her future husband, another said she would co-habit and not get entangled in a formal marriage that could drive her into insanity.

Real problem
Whatever the case, what I discovered from speaking to the young ladies was that there was a real problem out there with young marriages which needed society’s serious engagement.

The young ladies cited how very early in their relationships, married young men were flirting with other people’s wives with no sense of guilt. They also talked about young married women bearing children for men other than their husbands, only for DNA tests to expose them. No amount of preaching morality or the probability of contracting HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases bothered them.

Are families, and for that matter, parents, not preparing their children, particularly their daughters, well enough for the tedious, long-winded and self-sacrificing business of marriage which also requires a lot of patience? Are churches failing the youth in their congregation by not preparing them adequately before blessing them and sending them off as married? Are marriage counsellors not counselling young couples well enough for the better or worse vows they will be committing themselves to?

There is definitely an apparent scare in some young career women who would want to settle down to raise their own families. However, they are not seeing their way clearly with the men they would have to tie their lives to. Some of these women are forever comparing their parents’ marriages and identifying wide gaps in the relationships of today.

My take is that marriage today is at the crossroads, more than ever before, and that, to me, should not be allowed. We all have responsibilities to help preserve value systems in the institution of marriage in order to preserve the family as sacrosanct. That is the challenge that parents, families, the Church and society would have to work at. Marriage should never be allowed to pose as a monster to young people.

​CLUES YOUR PARTNER WANTS TO END YOUR RELATIONSHIP

It can be really unnerving when you’re in a relationship and you’re not sure if your partner is just in a super grumpy mood, or they actually are trying to drop clues that he or she wants to end your relationship. And while the good news is that nine times out of 10, this scenario is just you having an insecure week, or your partner having an extra stressful week, or possibly the two combined, with a sour cherry on top in the form of some sort of recent big fight or other drama

— sometimes, when things feel off, they are legit off and it’s time to give your relationship some serious attention.

Maybe your partner has been skulking around with a scowl on their face, and you have no idea why. Or maybe they are way quicker to anger lately, or they don’t seem to be very present when you’re around, or they just seem totally over it and you’re not sure why. All of these may seem like hints that they’re on their way out, but sometimes the mind can play tricks, and blow small things way out of proportion. So here are Clues that your partner is thinking of ending

your relationship, courtesy of relationship experts.

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  1. YOU ARE NO LONGER A PRIORITY

“When a person stops having the time or desire to be with you, then you know that your relationship is on life support system, and that you might just have to be the one who has the guts to pull the plug,” relationship coach and psychic medium Cindi Sansone-Braff, author of Why Good People Can’t Leave Bad Relationships, tells Bustle. It feels awful to have someone hanging around now and then who isn’t really available and is always looking for an out. “If you keep hearing how he or she is too busy with work, family, friends and other

obligations to spend time with you,” that sucks, and if they’re adding, ‘we’ll get together soon,’ they’re just giving you lip service, she says. “Just tell this person that this isn’t what you signed on for,” she adds. And be real about why you’re peacing out. “Let them know that you’ll be moving on, and if you should still be available when their life lightens up, then you might give this thing another try,” she says. But whatever you do, don’t just sit there. “Keep in mind, that when someone is really into you, they put you on the top of the list, and

make time for you,” Sansone-Braff says. “Nothing stands in the way: They’d walk five miles through a snowstorm to see you, because that’s how much they miss you.” If that’s just not happening, that’s OK — find someone who does feel that way about you.

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  1. THEY AVOID YOU

Breakups are tough, and some people find that actually telling their partner they want to call it quits is too hard. Instead, they choose the path of avoidance rather than being direct and honest about their feelings.

If your partner is suddenly canceling all your plans or changing the conversation whenever a serious topic comes up, they may want out but not know how to tell you. If you notice this happening, it’s time to bring this behavior to their attention.

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  1. THEY’RE BEING SECRETIVE

The partner who’s having a secret affair or hiding feelings is a common movie trope. You know how the story goes. If you notice your significant other sneakily checking their phone, quickly logging out of Facebook, going out with strange friends or not sharing their plans, look at the bigger picture of what those moves might mean.

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  1. THEY CUT BACK ON THEIR COMMUNICATION

When communication between the two partners in the relationship is strong, it means the relationship is buzzing. But when communication is nonexistent, then it points to the fact that the relationship is also nonexistent. A partner who wants out will first of all cut off every form of communication. You call and they don’t answer. You text and it goes unreplied. If your partner is cutting back your daily communication, then you may want to wonder why.

When a person is unsure of a relationship, it’s common to slowly reduce the amount of contact they have with their partner.

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  1. THERE’S PRECISELY NO FUTURE-TRIPPING

You and your partner used to spend hours planning your lives together. From marriage and kids to moving in together and worldly vacations, there was no shortage of future plans. Suddenly these talks are no longer. It’s true that the future can be scary, but if your partner is shunning these conversations, then it may be time to ask why.

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  1. THEY’VE STOPPED MAKING AN EFFORT

Relationships require effort from both partners. Whether this means planning date nights or making up after an argument, putting effort into a relationship is how people show they care for each other.

If your partner has stopped trying, it might be a sign that they’re thinking about leaving. Missing anniversaries or blowing off other special occasions could be their way of letting you know they’re ready to move on.

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  1. THEY STOP BEING A PART OF THE RELATIONSHIP

All these previous signs point to one thing – that partner isn’t part of the relationship. A relationship without communication, love and commitment isn’t a relationship at all – and in their minds, they are already out of the relationship.

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A continuous show of these signs could indeed point to the fact that your partner is fed up of the relationship and is looking for an escape route.

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The Journey to Locating & Sustaining a Relationship By Bishop Agyinasare – A must read…

12 THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU END A RELATIONSHIP
1. Why are you ending the relationship?
-Did you meet someone else?
-Have you considered emotional repercussions for the other person?
2. Don’t tell another party before you tell him/her
3. Inform your pastor and insist he prays with you
4. Pray seriously about the breakup and the effect on the other party
5. Don’t accuse the other party or be sarcastic in your statements
6. Think through what you will say before you have a conversation
-Write down some of the possible questions you’ll have to answer (ex. “what did I do wrong?”)
-Pick an appropriate time
-Don’t puncture their ego. Season your words with salt. Start by praising their strengths without flattery
7. State your reasons clearly and fairly
-Don’t leave any loose ends (ex. “if we are meant for each other, we will come back together”)
8. Don’t let pity, infatuation, pressure from family and friends make you change your mind
9. Don’t continue to be close friends after breaking a relationship; your friendship was for a purpose
10. Don’t just jump into another relationship. There is a tendency you would want to prove something. Give yourself time to heal. Be prayerful & commit to the work of God)
11. Channel your energies to develop your skills on all fronts (emotionally, spiritually, mentally, intellectually etc.)
12. Wait on the Lord for another person

6 SIX TO DO WHEN YOU REALISE YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE BROKEN THE RELATIONSHIP
1. Know that it will be difficult to be trusted again, especially if you initiated breakup.
-Pray and work extra hard to convince the other party of your sincerity
2. Accept that you made a mistake
3. Accept there were problems you should have ironed out
4. Show the person practical ways to heal the relationship
5. Get your pastor involved
6. If you didn’t initiate breakup, consider whether that person can be trusted. If you cannot give the person another chance, don’t pretend. Broken trust must be earned; if you accept, give conditions.

ENGAGEMENT & PAYING A DOWRY
In our tradition, a “knocking” takes places when you’ve decided you are ready to get married. You send representatives from family to introduce yourself & make your intentions clear. This is different from paying a dowry.

After this process, a date is set for the paying of a dowry, known as an engagement. In our culture, the man pays the dowry. The dowry differs from tribe to tribe.

After the payment of the dowry, you are married. However as Christians, we believe in the blessing of a marriage in a church or church office with witnesses from both families, not just your friends because marriage is between two families.

3 KINDS OF MARRIAGE BLESSINGS
1. Church office blessing
2. Simple church wedding
3. Expensive wedding
It doesn’t matter which kind you choose; live according to your means and know that each of them is accepted by God

I pray the Lord will guide you all through difficult situations in your relationships to make the best choice for a lasting marriage!

Remain blessed.

39 ANCIENT WISDOM TIPS FOR SINGLES ON MARRIAGE

  1. Wedding is a day but marriage is a lifetime .

  2. A stingy man who is single will still be stingy when married.

  3. Silence never be misquoted.

  4. If you want have what no one has had, you must do what no one has done.

  5. When God wants to bless you, He puts a person in your life. When Satan wants to destroy you, he puts a person in your life.

  6. It is better to be single and alone than to be married to the wrong person.

  7. Avoid a contentious woman.

  8. 3 men to avoid:

a. A hot tempered man.

b. A womanizer.

c. A drunkard.
9. Marrying a comedian does not guarantee a happy marriage.

  1. Never be yoked to anyone who will not be yoked to God.
  2. 3 words that echo peace in a marriage:

a. I love you .

b. I am sorry.

c. Thank you.
12. Don’t waste your time meditating or dwelling on your singleness.

  1. Cohabitation is a recipe for marital failure .

  2. Deal with anti-marriage dreams.

  3. Masturbation is destruction.

  4. Marriage without friendship is like a sky without the sun.

  5. If you rush into marriage, you may end up with someone who will bury your destiny.

  6. A successful marriage is always a triangle : God, a man and a woman.

  7. Why you marry is as important as who you marry.

  8. Much happiness in life depends on your marital choice.

  9. A man needs divine wisdom from God in choosing who to marry.

  10. Do not place your priority on good looks; no woman is ugly, she just needs rebranding.

  11. 3 major characteristics to look for in a woman:

a. Fear of God.

b. Wisdom.

c. Discretion (beauty is vanity).
24. The best way to enslave a woman is to show her love excessively – as a rule, women don’t run away from where they’re pampered.

  1. Love is not blind; infatuation and lust are blind.

  2. Love puts God first, lust puts sex first.

  3. Test every love with your peace of mind, if it is absent, God is not there.

  4. If you are a true friend, you will attract true friends.

  5. Caring hearts never lack caring hands.

  6. Desperation leads to frustration.

  7. Bad marriages can be avoided before they begin.

  8. Keep yourself pure and your bed undefiled.

  9. It is spiritual insanity to plan to convert someone so you can marry the person.

  10. Wage war against the devil that fought your parents’ marriage.

  11. Marriage is a covenant, always look before you leap.

  12. It is better to be single and believing God to be married than to be married and believing in God to be single.

  13. A broken courtship is better than a failed marriage.

  14. Do not marry money or property, marry a person.

  15. Be presentable
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​A  MUST READ. TEARS IN MY EYES AS I READ THIS…

A very poor newly wedded, young couple lived in a small farm. One day the husband made the following proposal to his wife:
Honey, I will leave the house: I will travel faraway, get a job and work hard in order to come back and give you the comfortable life that you deserve. I do not know how long I will stay away, I only ask one thing, please wait for me, and while I am away, you should be faithful to me, because I will be faithful to you. His wife agreed, so the young man left. He walked many days until he found a farmer who was in need of someone to help him. The young man offered his services. He was accepted. Therefore he discussed the terms with his boss:
Let me work for as long as I want and when I think I should go home, please relieve me of my duties. I do not want to receive my salary. I ask you to save it for me, until the day I leave. The day I decide to go, please give me the money and I will go my way. They agreed on that. So, the young man worked for twenty years without holiday and without rest. After twenty years, he came to his boss and said:
Boss, I want my money, because I am returning to my home. The boss replied:
All right, after all, I made a deal with you and I will stick to it. However, before you go I want to offer you something new: I will give you all your money and send you away; or I will give you 3 pieces of advice and send you away. If I give you money, you lose the 3 pieces of advice. If I give you the 3 pieces of advice, you lose the money. Now, go to your room and think about your answer. He thought for two days. Then he went to the boss and told him:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss stressed again, if I give you the 3 pieces of advice, I will not give you the money, and the man replied:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. 
The boss then told him:
No. 1: Never take shortcuts in your life, shorter and unknown paths can cost your life. No. 2: Never be too curious, for curiosity towards evil can be deadly. No. 3: Never make decisions in moments of anger or pain, because when you repent, it could be too late. After giving these 3 pieces of advice, the boss said to him:

Here, you have 3 loaves of bread, 2 are for you to eat during the journey and the last is for you to eat with your wife when you get home. So, the man went his way, after twenty years away from home and from his wife, whom he loved so much. After the first day of travel, he found a man who greeted him and asked:
Where are you going? 
He replied:

To a distant place which is about 20 days away if I continue walking. The man said to him:

Ol’ boy, this path is too long! I know a shortcut that is very safe and you will arrive in 5 days only. The man began to follow the path suggested until he remembered the first piece of advice. Then, he returned and followed the long path. Days later he learned that the shortcut led to an ambush.

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After a few more days of travel, he found an inn by the roadside, where he could rest. He paid for a room and after taking a bath he lay down to sleep. During the night he woke up as he heard a terrifying scream. He rose to his feet and went to the door to check what happened. As he was opening the door, he remembered the second piece of advice. Therefore he returned, lay down again and slept. At dawn, after breakfast, the owner of the lodging asked him if he had not heard the scream at night. He affirmed that he heard. Then, the host said:

Were you not curious to see what happened? And he replied:
No, I was not. 
Then the host said:
You are the first guest to leave this inn alive. My neighbour is completely crazy. He usually shouts at night to call someone’s attention. When some of the guests come out, he kills them and buries their bodies in the backyard. The man continued his long journey, eager to arrive soon.

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After many days and nights walking, he was very tired, but he finally saw his house far away. It was night. He saw some light coming out of the window of his house and was able to see the silhouette of his wife. But he also saw that she was not alone. He came closer and saw there was a man with her. She softly caressed his hair. When he saw that scene, his heart was filled with hatred and bitterness. He decided to rush at and kill them both mercilessly. However, he took a deep breath and he remembered the third piece of advice. Then he stopped, reflected and decided to sleep outside that night. He slept in the midst of the bushes, determined to make a decision the next day. At dawn, he was calmer and thought:

I will not kill my wife and her lover. I am going back to my boss to ask him to take me back. But before I go, I want to tell my wife that I have always been faithful to her.

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He went to the front door and knocked. When his wife opened the door and recognized him, she cried and embraced him warmly. He tried to push her away, but he

was not able. Then, with tears in his eyes he told her:
I was faithful to you but you betrayed me.

She was shocked, so she replied:

How did I betray you? I have never betrayed you. I waited patiently for you for twenty good years. Then he asked:
How about the man that you were caressing yesterday? 
And she said:
That man is your son. When you left, I discovered I was pregnant. Today he is twenty years old. Hearing that, the man asked her forgiveness. He met and hugged his son. Then he told them all the things he had experienced while away. Meanwhile, his wife prepared some coffee for them to eat together, the last bread given by his boss. 

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After a prayer of thanksgiving, he broke the bread. When he looked at it, he found all his money inside. In fact, there was even more than the right payment for his twenty years of dedication and hard work.

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Friends, our God is like this boss. When he asks us to make a sacrifice, he wants to give us more than what we give Him. He wants us to have His unique wisdom as well as the

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4 Signs Your Are With The Wrong Guy

Sometimes it is necessary to find out if you’re really with Mr. Right or not. Check out these five signs.


1. He Doesn’t Talk About 
The Future.
Guys do talk about the future with the person
they want to spend their lifetime with, So If your
guy doesn’t talk about it at all, then he is of no
good to you, quit and move on than get wasted
by him.

2 He Has No Ambition.
A man with no ambition is man of no use in the
future, he nothing to provide you years to come, this kind of man isn’t worth it. A real man who wants to spend his life with you must have
goals and ambitions for the future, If he doesn’t
then stay away from such kind of men.

3 He Doesn’t Stay Over.
After maybe you too had fun, like making love or
any other kind of fun and he doesn’t wanna stay
over and spend little time with you, he is of no Good to you now or in the future quit and get out of that relationship.

4 He doesn’t take you on dates. 

Your guy will at least take you out on a date to have fun, it doesn’t have to be every weekends but at least he should take you out once to have fun, if your guy hasn’t done this since you two dated then quit now!

​ADVICE TO MEN ABOUT THEIR PREGNANT WIVES

Men, today I want us to discuss about PREGNANCY.
Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to state of health of the mother and unborn child??
Listen, it bothers me a lot when I see men showing no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes.

It’s just 9 months, not like it’s forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It’s a seed planted by you germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.
Pregnancy is preparation to welcome a new member into the family. Pregnancy is a journey fun filled, amazing etc.
Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.
■Once in a while she would nag

■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread

■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make you your meals

■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps. Please pardon her… carrying the baby ain’t easy.

Her needs may be unsatisfiable at times.

The first Tri_mester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.

●While most women are busy vomiting.

●Most of them sleep like water leaf, they sleep off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.

●While most women have fever.

●Most women be looking cranky and dry like Dustin powder.

●While most women add up weight.

●Most women appear like burnt offerings.

●Some even go round with White handkerchief spitting in it. ALL THESE ARE STILL YOUR WORK…..
Please tolerate this, it’s beautiful afterwards.

Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you cant stand her. But I get annoyed when I see men neglect their pregnant wife. She’s not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it’s not an easy journey for all.
The last Tri_mester is when you need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.
NOTE 1) Always observe your wife’s feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her leg once in a

while, it’s one of the best treat women enjoy during pregnancy.

2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She’s the carrier so she feels him/her move.

3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g ” Honey see as the pregnancy make you fine, I will be impregnating you every month ooo” or even “is it my child that makes you fresh like this pass normal” Even if she has grown bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her.

4) Don’t be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. You need to feel little of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn’t carry it alone, it’s your baby you need to carry it together. (I don’t mean physical carriage though).

5) No rule book stopped sex during pregnancy, in short it’s the best sef…. do it. It’s not like the vagina stopped working during pregnancy. o boy continue the work that brings the pregnancy.

6) Don’t be ashamed to take her out. Take her out once in a while to those lovie dovie places you used to go together. They love it…
Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn’t easy.

I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that’s one of the times she needs you most.

A big shout out to all men who fully stand by their wives during pregnancy. God bless you all.

​THE ART OF LOVING AND THE JOY OF BEING LOVED.(Gen 2:24-25)

SEX IS NOT INTIMACY. It can be a part of intimacy. But sex does not equal intimacy. Yet almost every reference to intimacy in our modern culture is a reference to sex. Intimacy is the one thing that a person cannot live happily without. We can live happily without new cars and designer clothes, but we cannot live happily without intimacy.

WHAT IS INTIMACY? It is the process of mutual self revelation that inspire us to give ourselves completely to another person in the mystery we call love. LIFE IS A SELF REVELATION. We reveal ourselves to the people around us in a different ways. Everything we say and do reveals something about who we are.

Relationships are also a process of self revelation. But we often spend our tine and energy hiding our true selves from each other in relationships. This is the reason we struggle for intimacy. We want intimacy, but we avoid it. We want it badly, but we run from it. Why? Bcos having intimacy means exposing your secrets. Being intimacy means sharing the secrets of our hearts.

Intimacy requires that you allow another person to discover what moves you, what eats you up, what you are running from and what you are running toward.

MY GREATEST GIFT – Is to be willing to take off the mask and let down your guard, to set aside your pretenses and to share what is shaping you and directing your life. Intimacy is a complete and unrestrained of self.

IMAGINE LIVING YOUR WHOLE LIFE AND NEVER BEING REALLY KNOWN BY ANYBODY.

Relationships keep us honest. They provide the mirrors necessary to see and know ourselves. Isolated and alone, we can convince ourselves of all sorts of crazy things, but other people keep it real for us by drawing us out of our own imaginary worlds. They don’t allow us to deceive ourselves. Relationships help to make us out of our illusions and into reality. (read, Phil 2:5-8; 1john 4:18)